tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5312159882790612546.post464875274762180923..comments2023-11-02T08:41:44.231-07:00Comments on The Sanctuary: Stay at home mothering is the way forwardSpacetravellerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02202131232540121117noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5312159882790612546.post-5839330886832511752012-01-10T05:44:03.020-08:002012-01-10T05:44:03.020-08:00Gwen,
It is especially rewarding for me to hear f...Gwen,<br /><br />It is especially rewarding for me to hear from a mother on this post.<br />Thanks for your story!<br /><br />As you might have gleaned from the post or the blog in general, I am not a mother.<br />But I have seen (like you) what can happen...<br /><br />I know it is not easy choosing what you have chosen.<br />Respect from me to you for doing it.<br />Your daughters and nieces are extremely lucky.Spacetravellerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02202131232540121117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5312159882790612546.post-35429871365491581992012-01-10T05:27:06.979-08:002012-01-10T05:27:06.979-08:00My family learned this early. My grandmother worke...My family learned this early. My grandmother worked all her life, starting back in the 30s when a working mother was uncommon. My mother has a multitude of stories about Bad Things that happened because she and her sister were always alone. Because of this, my mother was always determined to stay at home and taught her daughters the importance of having a readily accessible mother.<br /><br />Unfortunately, my grandparent's choices left scars in their family that have crossed the generations. There were any number of things that my mother was never taught (her mother was, understandably, too tired) that she had to try to learn on her own as an adult, with little success.<br /><br />Mom was never taught those skills, so she wasn't able to teach those skills to her children. My sisters and I have improved on our mother's abilities, but we still have deficits that we are constantly trying to make up for. I have high hopes that our children will be able to run their homes as well as my great-grandmother ran hers, but we'll have to wait and see.<br /><br />So. Three generations effected by one generation's decision. Possibly four if my daughters and nieces can't manage to make up for the remaining deficiencies their mothers' have.<br /><br />I have told this story to my daughters, and emphasized to them how important it is for children to have a full-time parent. It doesn't mean that person has to be helpless - I work from home. My career is barely simmering right now because my main energies go into my family, but if something were to happen to my husband I could turn things up to a boil very quickly and easily step into the breadwinner role.<br /><br />Very, very anti-feminist, I know ;) - but then I've always thought that feminism was supposed to empower women to make choices - and this is my choice.Gwennoreply@blogger.com