Someone over at Dalrock's made the important point that doing the right thing is never going to win you friends or make you attractive to the opposite sex (read: 'get you laid').
This is largely true. But I think hidden in here lies another ...gasp....paradox!
I shall explore this paradox later.
The reason I added 'get you laid' in the first sentence is that pure attraction (which is largely um...physical) doesn't really care whether the object of the attraction is 'good' or 'nice'.
This is a cruel twist of Nature.
If mating is all about passing on great qualities to the next generation, then it is a shame that the instinct to mate is clouded by only what is physically appealing and nothing else.
Does Nature not care about values?
Apparently not.
It seems like we have to 'fill in the gap' left by Nature ourselves.
:-)
Thank you Nature... not. :-)
Metak brought up an uncomfortable paradox in the last post.
'The first shall be the last' -> Nice guys finish last.
I thought about this one for a while.
It seems to me that a lot of MGTOW are Nice Guys (TM) who got burned. I have a lot of sympathy for them, as I do for the Nice Girls who are chronically 'left on the shelf' because they won't 'put out'.
But these Nice guys and girls... they have the assurance that they have done the right thing.
They know that they are 'cool with God' or 'cool with the Universe' or what have you.
They are at peace with themselves, no?
In the MGTOW post, I got this sense of 'I have made my peace with myself and I am happy with that' from a lot of men who were 'left on the shelf' because they were 'Nice Guys' and now are being ardently chased by those same women who rejected them and who are now being rejected for the first time in their lives.
I wish I had heard from women who are also GTOW (although perhaps this is not the way a Nice Girl who is just not having any luck in tody's SMP will label herself - hmm, need a better title for her. Can anyone help on this score?).
I am certain they too will say something similar to what the men are saying, albeit using slightly different language - as men and women see things slightly differently from each other, even if they are both on the same page.
These people may not have friends (of the opposite sex) but who needs friends who will only distract you from your path of peace?
Really, who needs that? (Genuine question!)
Anyhow, there is one way to make friends...
:-)
Let this British chef show you how (at the 3:55 mark).
:-)
Cheeky question:
If you found yourself drooling watching this video, ask yourself:
Was the source of my salivary gland stimulation the....
1. Chef (hint: former model, lol).
2. The British accent (she is from Oxford, so she has as near to the perfect English 'Queen's English' as possible :-)
3. The millefeuille (ahuh, I believe you :-)
Answers on a postcard please!
:-)
Be good, and make millefeuilles to your heart's content.
You will make good friends :-)
Joking aside, there are people who will make good decisions no matter what the consequences of those decisions will be.
This is 'Outcome Independence' at its finest...
:-)
I admire this trait because this kind of attitude can indeed do more damage than lose you friends or simply not help you make friends: it can even get you killed.
But as someone I know keeps saying ad nauseum...
An honourable death is better than a dishonourable life.
I think he has a point, no? Nowhere is this more important than in the SMP, for both men and women.
It takes a brave soul to live like this.
It takes a crazy kind of 'fearless' to live one's life this way.
But I think people who do are more at peace with themselves than those who circumvent the hardships of life in exchange for an easy ride.
Life always comes back at one with 'payback' in mind.
So the questions is: would you rather pay now or payback later?
This should be a rhetorical question, but feel free to answer it if you want.
Friends are wonderful to have, but only if they are the right ones...no?
